Rethinking Journaling

I’m willing to bet that, at some point, someone has suggested that you try journaling as a coping skill. I know I’ve recommended it to nearly every client I’ve had at some point, and I often get a disappointed look and a series of reasons why they don’t or don’t want to.
Maybe some of these sound like you:
“I tried journaling, but I couldn’t keep up with it.”
“There is too much to write, and I get overwhelmed.”
“I’m not Anne Frank, I don’t have anything interesting to write about, so what is the point?”
“I don’t want anyone to find my journal and read what I write.”
“How is writing down what I ate for lunch and how boring my meetings were going to help me?”
Good news! You don’t have to be Anne Frank to journal, and that is not all that journaling is!

There Are No Rules

• You do NOT have to write in your journal daily.
• You don’t have to include any details about your day.
• You don’t have to catch your journal up after not writing in it for 18 months.
• You don’t have to write in a way that makes sense to anyone but you.
• You don’t have to write your deepest, darkest secrets to benefit from journaling.
• You don’t need the perfect notebooks, pens, highlighters, or stencils to journal. Any writing surface or digital writing platform will work just fine, depending on your intentions.
• There is no need to have profound, unique insights in your journal. What you write is just for you.
• You don’t have to have complete sentences, proper grammar, spelling, or formatting.  
• Your handwriting doesn’t even have to be legible. You can scribble, write with your non-dominant hand, or write on the same line over and over again so that words can no longer be recognized.
• You can journal in images, sketches, bullet points, single words, or scribbles.
• You can choose whether to share it or not with someone you trust.
• You can lock it away and never look at it again.
• You can destroy the page when you’re done with it, or destroy it in the process of writing.

Reflection
What rules have you put on journaling? Are they holding you back from a potentially helpful coping skill or therapeutic tool?

Potentially therapeutic journal techniques include but are not limited to: gratitude journaling, writing about what went well in your day, “thorns and roses,” venting, reflections on your day, insights from your therapy session, notes for things you want to talk about in sessions, processing and exploring a difficult experience or emotion, writing a trauma narrative, stream of consciousness, mood and emotion tracking, art or collage journaling, photo journaling, autobiographical writing, composing a letter to someone you’ll never send, or writing from a prompt.

Reevaluate your relationship with journaling and give it another shot. It is one of many ways that can further our therapeutic skills and keep us focused on our goals between sessions. Find what works for you!

Author: McKayla Kagie Robinson, MS, PLMFT
McKayla is a Therapist at Healing Reflections Therapist. Contact her to set up an appointment.